I had a question, and it’s regarding general life.
What is the worst thing you’ve ever been told as an overweight person? And how has it affected you as an individual?
I’m an overweight male who has been overweight since I was about 16, which is roughly 6 to 7 years. I’m on a weight loss journey.
The worst thing I’ve been told growing up overweight, and this was from my own family, was “the weight suits you” . This told me everything. Just so you know, I was 5’5 and weighed over 100 kg at the time. Since then, I’ve dropped weight and am now 91kg at 5’7. I’m continuously dropping weight. There are a few additional things, but I’ll stick to them.
I have a few, and all of them were said by family members. My father most likely made the worst one. I was about 15 years old and was wearing pretty short shorts around the house one day. I was just minding my own business when my father felt it would be humorous to point out how the shorts displayed my cellulite. He stated something along the lines of “You have so much cellulite.” I’m a 50-year-old male with no cellulite. “You really should lose some weight.”
I’m 30 years old now, and this comment (and other comments made by family members) bothered me so much that I don’t wear shorts even today.
I was at Home Depot helping a lady load her pickup. She had a helper with her, and he joked, “Well, at least you don’t have to go to the gym now,” but she quickly replied, “Well, it sure looks like you need to,” staring me dead in the eyes. I did welding in college and spent the entire two years being informed that I shouldn’t weld because I’m overweight. I couldn’t breathe properly or keep my stick steady since I was overweight. My instructor said all of this and more. I acquired a lot of weight around that period after losing my father. People say stupid things to you when they don’t find you worthy of respect.
"You’re big, sluggish, and will die of a heart attack before you’re 30. “I’m tired of caring.” I was told this all throughout my adolescence. I travelled to Vegas for my 30th birthday as a full-fledged party and an up-yours to them.
Edit: I forgot the second half. This significantly increased my self-confidence. I truly questioned why people liked me–I felt like I wasn’t worth it. Dating and social life were virtually nonexistent. It took many years of self-reflection to address that. I’m doing better, but I’m still working on it to make sure I don’t go to
Probably the fact that local football fans began referring to me as “Meatloaf,” as in the fat man from Bat Out of Hell.
I mean, I love Meatloaf and grew up listening to his songs, but when people you share an interest with decide that your key character traits are being huge, loud, and hairy, it still hurts a lot.
My wife’s cousin and brother-in-law enjoy hanging out together while they are around. Usually, most of the cousins’ talks went like this: “You’re a big boy, arn’t you?” “Oh, you’re still fat, you need to take more steps,” and the BIL would just laugh along with him.
I started working out two months ago. I dropped 25 pounds.
I’ve been overweight for most of my high school life. I was informed that I should quit going to school because I made people want to vomit, and that I should run. Fortunately, I was delusional about my size (325 pounds, but I am also 5’10 and rather strong for a lady) at the time, so I let it roll off of me. But if I wasn’t in Delulu, I would have been extremely fucked up by that.
However, my mother often comments on how much and how quickly I eat. While it’s annoying, I don’t let it bother me.
My boyfriend told me he didn’t want me to come to work because he didn’t want to have to defend me if his coworkers made comments or jokes about my weight, which would make him appear uncool. I’m 5’5 and weigh 100 kg, and I’ve never gotten over it. He recently stated that he finds it difficult to engage in any form of intimacy due of the size of my stomach and thighs. I started taking ozempic without his knowledge. He now’rewards me’ with intimacy for weight loss.
“You’re fat” is an insult that is generally used as a response. Like, no matter how bad someone’s attitude is, they believe they are better than me because I am obese and they are not… or they are less fat. However, I am aware that individuals insult the appearance of others when they are unable to respond intelligently. It helps individuals feel better about their flaws.
Throughout my life, I’ve typically been larger, but there have been instances when my weight has been called out because people know they can’t get away with racial slurs, and I’ve seen people who are larger than me like it because it takes the focus away from them.
. This told me everything. Just so you know, I was 5’5 and weighed over 100 kg at the time. Since then, I’ve dropped weight and am now 91kg at 5’7. I’m continuously dropping weight. There are a few additional things, but I’ll stick to them.
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